When your life starts orbiting theirs
Control can be difficult to recognise because it doesn’t always look the same.
Sometimes it’s obvious. Someone controls the money, questions where you’ve been, who you’ve seen, what you’ve spent, and makes you feel like you need permission for ordinary decisions.
But there’s another way to lose control of your own life, and it’s harder to spot, because nobody actually does anything. Nobody tells you that you can’t see your friends. Nobody stops you spending your money. Nobody tells you where you can and can’t go. And yet, somehow, your whole life starts revolving around theirs anyway.
You show up for their family, their friends, their interests, the places they want to go. They rarely show up for yours. Nobody has to control you when you’ve already handed it all over yourself.
When did you stop living a life that felt like it was actually yours?
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